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We spend so much of our time trying to figure out what we’re doing with our lives, that it’s easy to forget about the people around us. And especially our parents. For all of our life, they’ve had everything together, and they’ve helped us to grow. But when we get a little bit older, the tables begin to change. Now, it’s our turn to make sure that they’re able to live their best life. Below, we take a look at some useful tips for performing your new role to the best of your ability.
As your parent’s age, they’ll begin to slow down, and they won’t be able to do everything that they once able to do with ease. Even doing things like visiting the supermarket might become a challenge. Here’s where you can come in.
While you shouldn’t being overly bossy and take over your parent’s life, you should make yourself available in case they need your help. If you can see that they need your help but aren’t asking, then do it anyway – but make sure it doesn’t look like you’re helping them because they’re unable to help themselves.
The problem that many people have when they age is that they think that life is passing them by. Because they’re not able to be as big a part of society as they used to be, they can end up spending more time than they like inside their home.
So get them involved! If you’re doing something with your family, then invite your parents. They might not always want to come with you, but they’ll be happy that they were asked. It’s a small thing that can make a big difference in their life.
There’s going to be a lot of practical issues to contend with when your parents get older. For example, what will happen to their estate once they pass, what end of life care they’ll receive, and where they’re going to live, among others. You’re going to have your own opinion about the best course of action in all of these areas, but it’s always worth remembering that yours is but one voice – and it’s not the most important one in the conversation. Make sure that you’re listening to your parent’s wishes, and following what they want. Nothing annoys people more than being told what to do.
Just because your parents are in their later years, that doesn’t mean that they have to stop living. There are many groups out there that connect older people in the community. Encourage your parents to go along! They might be a little bit reluctant, but it’ll be good for them – and other people in the area too – if they go along.
Ultimately, the best approach is to have open communication with your mother and father about how they’re feeling and what they want. If you do that, it’s unlikely that you’ll go too far wrong.