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Last Updated on by Noni May
Everyone has a past, and everyone has gone through things in their life that have been difficult to deal with. This is all part of life, but it’s important that your past doesn’t stop you from moving forward. You may not have recognized that the past is holding you back, but you just know this something isn’t right in your life; check out these signs and see if the past could be holding you back.
People who have been treated badly in the past may find it hard to trust people in the future. However, it’s important to know that not everyone is the same, but if you assume they are, you’ll find it difficult to see beyond that. Think about your past and who has hurt you and try to let go and forgive them because only then will you be able to move forward and not feel the same about other people who have done nothing wrong.
There are always going to be days when you feel a bit down about life and about yourself, but if this is happening for you more often than not, then what is it that you’re thinking about? Are there moments in your life when someone has made you feel unworthy? Perhaps you have m made mistakes and regret things that you have done. Are you constantly going over these things and letting them define you? It’s easier said than done to just let go, but if you want to move forward in life, it is only you that is stopping you, and you need to change your way of thinking. If you have a criminal record, you can see an expungement attorney; if you hurt someone in the past and you’re still feeling bad about it, you could write to them and apologize or reach out and try and make it right.
Are you scared to walk home alone or even take your dog for a walk in the dark? If you have experienced a physical attack or verbal abuse, then this could be the reason for your current fears. While it’s good to be prepared and to be realistic, rather than living in fear, you should take proactive steps to fight your fears, such as taking a self-defense class so that you feel more confident.
Do you find your life going around in circles? The same work and relationship patterns over and over again. This isn’t just bad luck or a coincidence, it will be for a reason, but it’s up to you to work out what that is. Try to look back at what happened before. Is it just because you expect to be treated badly in the first place? If you see a pattern repeated in a new job or a relationship, for example, then you must deal with it differently so that you can move on and make changes.